I’ve been frustrated with myself a lot lately. There are areas in my life where I feel like I continually fail. Not only that, but I don’t even feel like I’m improving sometimes. I haven’t been writing enough, I waste a lot of time, I don’t feel focused or productive. I know ways that I could improve some of these areas, but I often lack the discipline to do so.
As I was expressing some of these frustrations to my wife, she stopped me and told me, “Mark, you need to be kind to yourself, you’re not going to figure everything out in one day.” She’s right. I need to be kind to myself, I need to understand the ways I want to grow in my life and be passionate about making that growth a reality, BUT if I fall short, I need to make note of it and move on. Tomorrow ALWAYS brings a chance to move in the right direction. Sitting around being frustrated with yourself will take you nowhere.
Also, we have to understand that growth in life takes time. You probably won’t see any dramatic change in a short period of time. One thing I have been working on lately is being a better listener, as I increasingly find myself daydreaming or checking my phone when I should be listening to someone. I’m at a point where this is a bad habit that has been ingrained for a few years, so it’s unrealistic for me to expect to become a fantastic listener overnight. I need to have a mindset of getting better each day in small increments. Over time, if I stay engaged to my goal, growth can happen.
The problem with growth is that it takes time, and sometimes it takes so long that we lose interest or just give up because we grow discouraged. This is why it’s important to be kind to yourself. You don’t need to crush yourself every time you fail, learn from it and keep moving. Stay consistent and give yourself a realistic chance to grow over time.
Life can be really difficult and there can be a lot of negative pressure coming from outside of yourself. You don’t need to apply that same negative pressure from within. You are not a finished product. Be intentional about consistent growth in your life and amazing things will happen over time. Be kind to yourself and keep moving.